Strict, blunt, disciplined approach to teaching life’s principles and lessons
Do not consider painful what is good for you. Euripides
Man must be disciplined, for he is by nature raw and wild. Immanuel Kant
There is nothing wrong with tough love and long as it is unconditional. George W Bush
Society is weak-willed, undisciplined, whiny, impolite, selfish, patronizing and has a long list of other undesirable traits and characteristics. There is a lack of love and concern, low expectations, and poor accountability. What we need is more tough love.
The true concept of love requires a degree of toughness. When raising children we have to say ‘No!’ be willing to discipline; withhold privileges and practice accountability. Some allow their children free reign. All we have to do is to look around and see the undesirable results of children whose parents have not practiced tough love. Some of us can look back and be thankful for the tough love of our parents, and some of us can look back and wish our parents had practiced more tough love. The more faults and short comings we have today may be related to the amount or lack of tough love we received or did not receive from our parents.
Many lack sufficient skills in self-discipline, accountability, delaying gratification, work ethic, patience, perseverance, and others. Those having some mastery of these are functioning and flourishing at higher levels than those who do not. Many of us are aware of our need to strengthen these skills. The more we tended to learn them from our parents, the more likely we acquired them earlier in life. Some of us are having to learn these things more on our own. As adults we need to practice tough love on ourselves as well as on our children.
The need for discipline, motivation, and accountability never ends. Just as kids need tough love from their parents, we need to practice tough love on ourselves. We need to do this in order to grow and reach our potential. Many of us are doing a poor job. Once no longer under the authority of our parents, we have to become our own parent. We have to be able to love ourselves and hold ourselves accountable to high standards. We have to practice self-discipline, delay gratification, be able to say “NO’, and limit our exposure to undesirable influences, and practice many other ‘tough love’ activities. Just as a parent fails his child when not practicing tough love, we fail ourselves in a similar manner. The need to learn and grow does not stop at adulthood, it is never-ending, ever-challenging, and a life-long need. We do need tough love in our lives.
Challenge: Do you practices tough self-love? Are you self-disciplined and self-accountable? These are very necessary skills to have. Chances are you can use some improvement in this area of your life. It behooves you to be aware of this need and responsibility. Are you less than you can or should be? Commit to becoming a good parent to yourself; practice tough self-love; you owe it to yourself to hold yourself to have high standards.
Wisdom: No life ever grows great until it is focused, dedicated and disciplined. Author Unknown
I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13
If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. James 1:5
In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3: 5
God is the perfect parent. He would be less than perfect if He did not discipline and teach us the lessons of life. He does not make bad things happen, but uses bad things to teach and help us learn the lessons of life. This is tough love in action. God is the creator of love. We should learn from his example. We should practice tough self-love on ourselves. The more we are able to do this, the more we will grow and prosper in this life.
Prayer: Help me to practice ‘tough self-love’.